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  • Stacey Darling

Own it, Sis!

"If you are good at something, stop downplaying it and start owning it." - Jordan Lee Dooley Author of Own Your Everyday

Okay Sis,

Let’s be real for a minute. This is me (and probably many of you). Fear, anxiety, doubt, insecurity... all the things that stand in the way of standing tall, standing firm and confidently walking in our gifts and talents.

Many of us have things we are good at, heck maybe even great at but are afraid to declare it, share it, believe it or even own it. Some maybe pack away their gifts and talents out of fear.

I do that. 🙋🏽‍♀️

I have aways done that. I have let fear and insecurity be at the forefront of my decision making since I was a little girl. I walk in the a feeling of unworthiness and less than. This is a mentality that stems from many things but it has become my default mentality.

As a woman, wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, artisan, ETSY manager, small business owner I do not have it all figured out. I am still trying to figure out who I am independently and in those roles.

I love to cheer on those around me, see them succeed and thrive. I am happy to do what I can to help others achieve their dreams but lately I’ve come to realize that I hide behind that a bit.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s a positive thing but I tend to throw myself into what others need to the point where I don’t have anything left.

Yes life is busy, crazy and chaotic with four little boys and everything else but out of fear, I often use the time I do have pouring into someone else’s goals and dreams rather than mine.

Do I have goals and dreams of my own? Heck yeah, I do! Lots of them.

Adding Caleb to our family has changed me in many ways. Now that I have four children I am recognizing that they need me to start owning my gifts and talents. It’s important that I model this for them so they know it’s okay to be proud of who God made you and to honor Him by being who He created us to be rather than hiding behind fear and insecurity.

It won’t be over night, an ongoing journey I suspect. But I’ve already taken the first steps (and maybe a few back-steps) but even just posting these thoughts publicly is another step in the right direction.

Anyone else struggle to own your gifts and talents? I would love to hear about some of the things that make you uniquely beautiful and uniquely you.

I'm already proud of you! Own it, Sis!

With Love and Gratitude,


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